The other day I was thinking about my parents.
They have been married for almost 40 years. 40 years.
Thats a long time to me. They have been married for longer than I have been alive. Isn’t that amazing?
I was thinking about all they have been through. I know raising me could not have been easy but they did it and they tell me raising their kids, they raised a few, is the most rewarding part of their lives.
They would not trade that experience for anything.
And it just keeps getting better, but not easier. I watch how they deal with my siblings and how things affect them. Over time they have gotten tougher and more resilient.
And with that toughness and resilience they get tested over and over. It’s not easier. Not by a long shot.
Quite the opposite. Their is a sense that things actually get harder.
I mean they are older, they are weaker, they are a bit slower now. And alongside of these realities are other truths.
They are strong emotionally, tighter relationally and it’s easier for them to laugh.
And still things are hard. Things are difficult for them to deal with.
It’s even difficult for them to deal with each other. And yet they push through the hard times. The push through the hard moments. They push through the hard talks.
They push through to uncover whats on the other side of the hardship. And time after time they discover joy in the midst of hardship and disappointment and frustration and hurt and anger.
They discover that while things don’t get easier, they do get better. They realize this time and time again.
And this is how it is for people with vitiligo. It does not get easier. We get new spots. We hear new comments.
And we get stronger emotionally. And we get older one day at a time. And we practice being in the moment. We practice not imaging what other people think about us.
We practice being the best version of ourselves. And it doesn’t get easier, but it gets better.
After every period of growth we see that we have more places where we can improve, more places to work, more places to be vulnerable and strong at the same time. And we know its work to push through these things.
And we do it. Because it’s worth it.
It won’t get easier, and it will get better.
I believe that just as much as I believe in you.